showing up at ex house unannounced

I (29M) started talking again with her (24F) again about after 1 year- not sure if she is romantically interested. I suspect that if the "power struggle" and "game playing" weren't still going on she'd never have shown up to begin with. This is meant to keep you off balance. My ex showed up at my house unannounced - wow bad idea for him. Im finding it hard because I think NC is best but I dont want to make him think that Ive moved on and am "already seeing other guys" like he suggests. She never realize how well I treated her until I was gone. Izzy1234 And I told her straight up that I don't even know her anymore, I'm sketpical, and that I don't trust her. Ooph suddenly so thankfully that BM has a big mouth about me behind my back but is so intimidated she doesnt even want to see me. That happened more than once. This is obviously the wrong forum to post in, but I figured I'd get the most views here. Huge mistake on my part by doing that. Unfortunately, I have a feeling this isn't going to be the last time I've heard from her. It's freezing outside. edit: But I'm an idiotyou'd probably be better off blocking her number and not answering the door next time. /*# sourceMappingURL=https://www.redditstatic.com/desktop2x/chunkCSS/IdCard.ea0ac1df4e6491a16d39_.css.map*/Kindness Matters. She is blocked from everything possible. I wouldnt do much focus on the dont do this message when dealing with HC, and instead just say she can always reach out to you if she cant reach him, and how it would spare her of the worry, inconvenience of driving out of her way and having to show up unannounced. The same is true with family members. Or, if they must come in make sure that you dont make a habit of stopping everything you are doing in its tracks to sit down and host their unannounced visit. If you continue with your chores, or sit back down at your computer to work they will eventually get the point. What would you do in this FACEBOOK/Match.com situation? By If you feel threatened by their refusing to leave, you can call the police. Me: Look you're not over it..you told me that last night and I can just tell..I honestly don't even know you anymore..I'm out all of the time now..If you see me out, come say hi and we'll see what happens. I should have said I was busy and couldn't come to the door or whatever. My ex showed up at my house unannounced - wow bad idea for him. .c_dVyWK3BXRxSN3ULLJ_t{border-radius:4px 4px 0 0;height:34px;left:0;position:absolute;right:0;top:0}._1OQL3FCA9BfgI57ghHHgV3{-ms-flex-align:center;align-items:center;display:-ms-flexbox;display:flex;-ms-flex-pack:start;justify-content:flex-start;margin-top:32px}._1OQL3FCA9BfgI57ghHHgV3 ._33jgwegeMTJ-FJaaHMeOjV{border-radius:9001px;height:32px;width:32px}._1OQL3FCA9BfgI57ghHHgV3 ._1wQQNkVR4qNpQCzA19X4B6{height:16px;margin-left:8px;width:200px}._39IvqNe6cqNVXcMFxFWFxx{display:-ms-flexbox;display:flex;margin:12px 0}._39IvqNe6cqNVXcMFxFWFxx ._29TSdL_ZMpyzfQ_bfdcBSc{-ms-flex:1;flex:1}._39IvqNe6cqNVXcMFxFWFxx .JEV9fXVlt_7DgH-zLepBH{height:18px;width:50px}._39IvqNe6cqNVXcMFxFWFxx ._3YCOmnWpGeRBW_Psd5WMPR{height:12px;margin-top:4px;width:60px}._2iO5zt81CSiYhWRF9WylyN{height:18px;margin-bottom:4px}._2iO5zt81CSiYhWRF9WylyN._2E9u5XvlGwlpnzki78vasG{width:230px}._2iO5zt81CSiYhWRF9WylyN.fDElwzn43eJToKzSCkejE{width:100%}._2iO5zt81CSiYhWRF9WylyN._2kNB7LAYYqYdyS85f8pqfi{width:250px}._2iO5zt81CSiYhWRF9WylyN._1XmngqAPKZO_1lDBwcQrR7{width:120px}._3XbVvl-zJDbcDeEdSgxV4_{border-radius:4px;height:32px;margin-top:16px;width:100%}._2hgXdc8jVQaXYAXvnqEyED{animation:_3XkHjK4wMgxtjzC1TvoXrb 1.5s ease infinite;background:linear-gradient(90deg,var(--newCommunityTheme-field),var(--newCommunityTheme-inactive),var(--newCommunityTheme-field));background-size:200%}._1KWSZXqSM_BLhBzkPyJFGR{background-color:var(--newCommunityTheme-widgetColors-sidebarWidgetBackgroundColor);border-radius:4px;padding:12px;position:relative;width:auto} He usually sleeps in til like 2pm. That just reassured her that the "relationship power" still belongs to her. After all, we were together for 4 years. jessb86a Even if the claims arent too serious, you may not find about an investigation until a CPSsocial worker arrives. You're moving on with the grieving and healing process while your ex hasn't. She says to me: Her: Can you come let me in? Personally, the unannounced showing up of an ex is UNFORGIVEABLE. It may or may not work, but its atleast a more passive approach to someone HC & also allows you to kind of assert your position in their lives - which I have found is important considering they often live in denial. We dated for 2.5 years, broke up four months, etc. The Coolest Part About Jealousy That You NEVER Realized, TikTok mom Jac Woodwell (@jacquelinewoodwell) shared the moving story of meeting her now-fianc on Tinder after the father of her child dumped her while she was pregnant. He had to think of you to do this. By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. I hope for her own sake that she's on her own now. I cant move on, and I just wish I could perform miracles or have a time machine, I would have behaved differently. He sounds downright manipulative to me. +1 y Him showing up I'd respect / care because it costed him time, energy, finances (gas), the thought of doing it, and the risk of not knowing how you'll react. I was starting to feel like I was almost over her too and she just randomly shows up. The consent submitted will only be used for data processing originating from this website. I just wish I knew what he wanted from me. I would also suggest installing a camera or multiple cameras. LOL. I ended up texting her this morning and here was the interaction: Me: Honestly, I have no idea why you came or what to believe but after all of that last night, I just can't leave it like that. This is a tough call dude. What else is new, huh? Nothing ever seems cut and dry in this department. 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Did she come in and make coffee, and demand you to go get her the creamer she likes? That is dads job. ENA has been a great support network you are all very nice people. It doesnt seem to make sense. He says I must have slept with them all. I tell her that I gave her the best of me, but I completely changed my lifestyle. I even told her that my mistake was not letting her go and letting her deal with her issues on her own instead of making her problems, my problems. Started Friday at 07:51 AM, By So at around 8 pm she showed up and invited herself into our house. I Am The Only Family Member Not Invited To A Wedding - What Should I Do. But I dont think thats really the avenue to pursue here. We haven't had a real conversation in months. I truly love her I mean we overcame huge hurdles to be together. thekid55January 25, 2011 in Getting Back Together, Well mine did last night. 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Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. Ex turned up outside my house this morning. I get a call from an unknown number. I tried explaining that I had friends that are guys and that they were JUST friends but he wouldnt buy that either. 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She brought up the fact that when we first started dating, she wasn't 100% over her ex(granted we started to date 6 months after they broke up). In reality she knew what she had except for some of my flaws and didnt know what to do. We recently filed charges against my ex for harassment etc. Some of our partners may process your data as a part of their legitimate business interest without asking for consent. But then again, she doesn't know what she wants at all. I (m/28) popped up last night at my exs house unannounced to collect a phone I got for her because her old phone was completely fucked under the Press J to jump to the feed. No doubt! Really hard to say what were her intentions. Obviously she felt guilty, and wanted you to hear her out. It seems to me she was so comfort She obviously has some issues to work out on her part though and maybe last night was the first step for her in doing that? the next day I had called and her son answered and was like can i teach you some russian. At this point, my shield that I put up when she came through the door was slowly starting to fade. Very worried. That's something I've corrected on my own with these new girls who I've been dating. You are adverse, Dana Perino South Carolina House . I remember toward the beginning of our relationship my now ex bf told me, with tears in his eyes: "if you ever left me I'd wait day and noght outside your door for you to open". That's the only reason why you came over? If she came back as a whole, strong person, then we could talk, but I'm just left very confused by this whole thing because someone who doesn't care or who is over it, doesn't do that, start crying the whole time, etc. ._1aTW4bdYQHgSZJe7BF2-XV{display:-ms-grid;display:grid;-ms-grid-columns:auto auto 42px;grid-template-columns:auto auto 42px;column-gap:12px}._3b9utyKN3e_kzVZ5ngPqAu,._21RLQh5PvUhC6vOKoFeHUP{font-size:16px;font-weight:500;line-height:20px}._21RLQh5PvUhC6vOKoFeHUP:before{content:"";margin-right:4px;color:#46d160}._22W-auD0n8kTKDVe0vWuyK,._244EzVTQLL3kMNnB03VmxK{display:inline-block;word-break:break-word}._22W-auD0n8kTKDVe0vWuyK{font-weight:500}._22W-auD0n8kTKDVe0vWuyK,._244EzVTQLL3kMNnB03VmxK{font-size:12px;line-height:16px}._244EzVTQLL3kMNnB03VmxK{font-weight:400;color:var(--newCommunityTheme-metaText)}._2xkErp6B3LSS13jtzdNJzO{-ms-flex-align:center;align-items:center;display:-ms-flexbox;display:flex;margin-top:13px;margin-bottom:2px}._2xkErp6B3LSS13jtzdNJzO ._22W-auD0n8kTKDVe0vWuyK{font-size:12px;font-weight:400;line-height:16px;margin-right:4px;margin-left:4px;color:var(--newCommunityTheme-actionIcon)}._2xkErp6B3LSS13jtzdNJzO .je4sRPuSI6UPjZt_xGz8y{border-radius:4px;box-sizing:border-box;height:21px;width:21px}._2xkErp6B3LSS13jtzdNJzO .je4sRPuSI6UPjZt_xGz8y:nth-child(2),._2xkErp6B3LSS13jtzdNJzO .je4sRPuSI6UPjZt_xGz8y:nth-child(3){margin-left:-9px} Our relationship over the last 3 years has been hit or miss so I think it was meant to be a good talk to set things up between us better. But perhaps that's his way of dealing with it. OTOH, if you broke it off and truly want to try again, can you not contact her by some other means? Started Thursday at 10:00 PM, By I understand this. 200+ Perfect Nicknames For Guys: Best Names Ideas. Something triggered this emotional reaction from her. I know she would. It was disasterous. Remember that OP is a human being and their needs are first and foremost on this sub. So immediately, I'm skeptical. It caught me way offguard and the fact that she lied to me, bothers me. Ex's don't like surprises, if that is what you are planning. I think he has some growing up to do. Then we left and as he was walking he started getting increasingly angry again started calling me names again and started telling me he was on the internet all night looking at my myspace/facebook/blogs and saying he saw "all the guys i talk to". Log in or register to post comments Really.. you would call the Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. Truth About Cell Phones In A Relationship, We broke up because he has depression but he has already reached out, She dumped me and found someone new, 10 months later its gotten very complicated. As of now we live on an emotional connection between the two weeks later the same school and doesn't make me reconsider our relationship, with out him. He was busy taking care of a sick child and not at his phone and HCBM decided it was a good idea to drive to our house because she was worried with her own mother in tow as a witness I assume all because she didnt get an update for a few hours. DH has explained that if BM were to show up unannounced, I am to take the kids, hide in the closet where his pistol is stored, call the police, and if she breaches the thresh-hold, to shoot. If he continues to show up at your door getting angry, get a restraining order. I did enable her too though, so it's not totally her fault. It seems to me she was so comfortable around you that she decided it would be brave thing to do. I Am The Only Family Member Not Invited To A Wedding - What Should I Do. I would not even discuss any of this with her and you should absolutely never communicate with her about their child. Ex husband tried at each place to show up unannounced and come in, with the premise of dropping my daughter off. There are tons of tips for dealing with unannounced company. The first, and probably the most important tip depends upon you. If every single time that nosy neighbor or annoying mother in law comes to the door, you welcome them with open arms and accommodate them completely; you are setting the state for more of the same. Everyone says I have to leave him alone but I really want to help. I can parent and am not accountable to you. It sucks and hurts a lot, but I'm learning a lot about myself and the relationship these last few weeks. She kept on turning the knife already stuck in my heart. Who came up with this agreement? I am not a liar or a cheat by nature and the truth is I honestly believed he did not want to be with me at the time when I made the mistake. Something is fishy here. Call the police. Also, she was very codependant on me. (Cite: Healing Journal). toughlove1993 Continue with Recommended Cookies, By By Never. This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies. Indeed any kind of unannouced showing up is bad enough, but an ex doing it is truly messed up Yeah, I was This is a tough call dude. Are you interested in getting back with him after the Only time will tell if he will ever come back. By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. We'll see what happens. If you do not want them on you property, you can ask them to leave. If you have questions about the community, or concerns about posters, please reach out to the mod team. I didn't want to disrespect his choice and boundaries so I refrained from going to where he lives / works / etc. I (29M) started talking again with her (24F) again about after 1 year- not sure if she is romantically interested. Remember its his day for pick up. Im really worried about him. She starts to cry again, saying that she was finally able to talk to me face to face and that I should respect that. It probably isn't a good idea if she was the one who broke it off. So frustrating. She feels guilty (mentioned hurting you; you aren't over it). 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